My first experience with this was when I was young and watched a Monty Python episode with my father, thinking that since we shared a sense of humor it would hit him the same way it did me. Apparently we shared some types of humor, but the combination of British higher level comedy satire mixed with absurbism didn’t hit well, and he found nothing at all funny. Which now I’m fine with including him not pretending to get it, but as a kid it really stung to expect a connection that totally failed.
From then on when sharing stuff I try to just put it out there and not force anything to happen. The last experience was on vacation at a hotel with my wife. One of the nights I saw The Big Short on the movie selection and suggested we watch it. I just introduced it as a dark comedy documentary about the 2008 crash and it had Steve Farrel, and let her watch without expectation or prompting of moments. I was really pleased when not only did she understand and enjoy it during the watch, but asked questions and we talked about it afterwards. Now, yeah, she’s my long time wife, but that doesn’t means things often click like that as we are different people with different viewpoints and taste, so it was definitely a wonderful experience to have that kind of feedback.
My first experience with this was when I was young and watched a Monty Python episode with my father, thinking that since we shared a sense of humor it would hit him the same way it did me. Apparently we shared some types of humor, but the combination of British higher level comedy satire mixed with absurbism didn’t hit well, and he found nothing at all funny. Which now I’m fine with including him not pretending to get it, but as a kid it really stung to expect a connection that totally failed.
From then on when sharing stuff I try to just put it out there and not force anything to happen. The last experience was on vacation at a hotel with my wife. One of the nights I saw The Big Short on the movie selection and suggested we watch it. I just introduced it as a dark comedy documentary about the 2008 crash and it had Steve Farrel, and let her watch without expectation or prompting of moments. I was really pleased when not only did she understand and enjoy it during the watch, but asked questions and we talked about it afterwards. Now, yeah, she’s my long time wife, but that doesn’t means things often click like that as we are different people with different viewpoints and taste, so it was definitely a wonderful experience to have that kind of feedback.