• sp3ctr4l@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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            Perhaps ironically, this is pretentious enough to convince me that you may indeed be an asshole.

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                1 month ago

                Deeply communicating that you are an asshole, by continuing to be pretentious?

                By showing that you are actually confident that being consistently pretentious is a good way to showcase this, despite claiming you have no confidence?

                By disproving that your asshole status is self-evident, by showcasing that it actually requires a sustained interaction to demonstrate this?

                I dunno, I’ve been around a lot of assholes, constantly contradicting themselves in ‘clever’ ways is pretty bog standard behavior.

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                  Deeply communicating that you are an asshole, by continuing to be pretentious?

                  Now you begin to understand.

                  By disproving that your asshole status is self-evident, by showcasing that it actually requires a sustained interaction to demonstrate this?

                  My appearance should do, but, alas.

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                    1 month ago

                    … your… appearance.

                    This is basically a message board.

                    You do not even have a profile image.

                    So you … think I just know what you look like?

                    Is that narcissism or paranoia?

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      implies confidence.

      nope. it implies a craven amount of insecurity.

      it says something though that so many people assume this, it’s certainly not just you.

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        1 month ago

        In my case, you’re wrong, the guy is like a tank, insecurity is not the case. I see some people trying to “dig deeper”:

        • “maybe the women have insecurities, so it is them who are to blame”
        • “maybe the asshole is not an asshole, he just has a childhood trauma”
          No, he is a confident asshole, and his “charm” works one some women (and not each of them falls into made-up categories). People look for patterns too much. “I’m a red-piller” - lol, that’s a first.
          Note, I’m not protecting the guy, but he is not a comic-book villain with an origin story. He just happens to be successful in finding one-night stands because of a personal trait.
          Edit: forgotten line breaks
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          the guy is like a tank

          a lot of people who over-invest on physical attributes have serious insecurities.

          I hold to my premise. it in no way discredits him being an asshole in his coping with these issues.

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            Not strong like a tank, I meant by attitude. Ok, you invent whatever person you want in your head.

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        1 month ago

        Whatever. It gives off the impression of confidence. We’re trying to explain observed phenomena here, not cast moral judgements.