When you’re talking to someone who’s expressing a great deal of anxiety (“emergency shutdown”), phrases like “it’s not that hard” and “it’s obvious” become “if you struggle with this, you’re an idiot”.
You might not be an idiot but you are lacking in experience doing basic things like handling cash and talking to people and being in the world, which is fine because everyone at some point is inexperienced.
The first time I had a cashier say this to me, I was also baffled and froze up… the customs of the rapidly-moving world outside were new to me. Now it’s easy and I understand the other person’s job. Everyone gets there, it just takes exposure, not running and hiding from it.
I’m glad you had progress! Notice I’m not the one who originally wrote about actually having a “shutdown”.
My comment is about how someone’s choice of words can sabotage their point, depending on the listener’s situation. It is not encouragement to avoid challenging things.
A great deal of anxiety and an emergency shutdown because a cashier tried to make your life a bit easier? Calm down, I bet you enter a coma when your car breaks.
Edit: dammit people, you trying so hard to be broken makes a disservice to actual people suffering from these conditions. Don’t blame genetics for neglecting basic social skills, it’s like blaming genetics because you skip leg days.
I just assumed your knowledge on the matter is lacking up until that edit. Now you seem just willfully ignorant. Look up how many people are suffering from social anxiety.
It seems like you think I’m the same person as the one with the “shutdown”.
I’m a different person, pointing out clues to how your phrasing was sabotaging your own point.
Now you’re just being demeaning – so I won’t continue.
Just because your brain functions normally in these situations doesn’t mean you get to make light of other’s physiological conditions. It just makes it incredibly obvious how ignorant and narrow minded you are.
Oh are you hearing a wee bit of voices in your head? I bet you have a hard time telling reality from your hallucinations too 🙄
When you’re talking to someone who’s expressing a great deal of anxiety (“emergency shutdown”), phrases like “it’s not that hard” and “it’s obvious” become “if you struggle with this, you’re an idiot”.
You might not be an idiot but you are lacking in experience doing basic things like handling cash and talking to people and being in the world, which is fine because everyone at some point is inexperienced.
The first time I had a cashier say this to me, I was also baffled and froze up… the customs of the rapidly-moving world outside were new to me. Now it’s easy and I understand the other person’s job. Everyone gets there, it just takes exposure, not running and hiding from it.
I’m glad you had progress! Notice I’m not the one who originally wrote about actually having a “shutdown”. My comment is about how someone’s choice of words can sabotage their point, depending on the listener’s situation. It is not encouragement to avoid challenging things.
A great deal of anxiety and an emergency shutdown because a cashier tried to make your life a bit easier? Calm down, I bet you enter a coma when your car breaks.
Edit: dammit people, you trying so hard to be broken makes a disservice to actual people suffering from these conditions. Don’t blame genetics for neglecting basic social skills, it’s like blaming genetics because you skip leg days.
I just assumed your knowledge on the matter is lacking up until that edit. Now you seem just willfully ignorant. Look up how many people are suffering from social anxiety.
It seems like you think I’m the same person as the one with the “shutdown”. I’m a different person, pointing out clues to how your phrasing was sabotaging your own point. Now you’re just being demeaning – so I won’t continue.
Just because your brain functions normally in these situations doesn’t mean you get to make light of other’s physiological conditions. It just makes it incredibly obvious how ignorant and narrow minded you are.