This really made me smile, because it made me think of some of my most cherished friendships.
For much of my life, I felt it necessary to dampen my authentic self, because I felt like I would inevitably be “too much” for people. Nowadays, I privileged to know people who match my energy and then some
I sometimes forget that I’m painting and get paint on my face.
I also do a lot of staring into the distance, though it’s usually a more frowny kind of focus than dreamy.
I also have ADHD. Both of these are my ADHD
I’m a big fan of fishnet stockings — ones that require a suspender belt, not hold-ups (Ideally a good suspender belt has 6 (ideally metal clips). The reason for this is that if you put your underwear on over the suspender belt, it makes it way more easier to go to the toilet because you don’t have to disrupt your stockings at all (and pulling tights up and down always contributes to ladders and tears, in my experience, especially with fishnets).
Another perk is that it makes it easier to cycle through damaged fishnets. You can get away with some holes in fishnet tights[1] or stockings (and depending on how punk one’s aesthetic is, some damage may improve the vibe ), but eventually they’ll get too torn up and need to be disposed of. With stockings, if one of them gets damaged, I can just throw that one away. If I start with a few pairs of the same stockings, they seem to last longer than the equivalent number of pairs of tights.
[1]: Though actually, if you think about it, damaging fishnet tights actually causes there to be fewer holes. Philosoraptor.jpeg
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That reminds me of a line I like from a friend who is a GP: “We’re responsible for a patient’s healthcare, not their health”. I found the distinction interesting, because I hadn’t considered it before.