behaviouring by telling people to name things properly… not one of my biggest sins

Or you simply did not get my point, I guess.

Carbonara is made with cubes of ham

with cubes or slices of Guanciale or Pancetta to be correct

and green peas

nice variation but not the traditional way

Eat your pizza or pasta like you want to. Nobody sane cares. Just don’t name your dish wrong. A la carbonara is not made with cream, a ragou a la bolognese is not just mince and tomato sauce and a real pizza is not that ugly frozen disk.