Macchi_the_Slime

Don’t worry, perfectly reasonable thing to be uncomfortable with imo.

It’s “funny” that very thought about gender expectations is what made my own gender crisis in high school so difficult to navigate. I was only aware of the full Binary transition options and so being amab I thought the only way to be “not boy” was to “be girl” instead, I didn’t know nonbinary was even a thing someone could be until my now wife heard my story over a decade later and introduced me to it.

So being the imaginative little doofus I am, I set about imagining my life from that perspective. Trying to see if I’d be happier as a girl. But what I kept coming back to was that as much as being a boy felt wrong, as much as I hated the gender expectations put on me for being born in that box, and as much as I wished that I had been born different because of things like being bullied for showing emotion or being seen as a predator for wanting to work with children deep down, all I’d be doing is trading one set of expectations I hated for a different set of expectations I hated in different ways.

I didn’t learn until much later that a lot of that had to do with subconsciously being very uncomfortable as an asexual person with the amount of overt sexualization women face. Which makes a ton of sense because one of the big “male” expectations I hated was being constantly made to feel like I was broken because I wasn’t looking to sleep with anything vaguely female shaped with a pulse.

Sorry, I’m rambling… uh… gender expectations are bullshit? Yeah… yeah that.

Depending on how far in the closet they are, might also be covered under Lesbian.

Proudly fucking males? Boykisser confirmed? Or do I suck at reading again?

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