The first time I allowed myself to wear a dress when I first saw myself in the mirror as a woman I immediately understood how it feels to identify with your body. Before I would always say I am not a body I only inhabit it. But as soon as I could see myself as a woman something clicked in my brain and for the first time I felt like I was that body. Before that I didn’t even know that was something one could feel. So at least for me gender is very real.
I still haven’t worn skirts often sadly - I feel the ‘parts’ are in the way. And I don’t know how to tuck them effectively - I have shapewear, but that’s it. Tucking it into the body I cannot do.
Plus I feel like I don’t dare yet to go full skirty outside yet. I’m taking E and pass for many, but for myself I feel like I don’t yet – due to my jawline. I don’t know if you’ve done so yet, but how do you overcome that fear? How do people react?
Unfortunately I can’t help you there. I still remember wanting to dress super cutely feminine only to look into a mirror and find myself too masculine to pull it off and sadly changing to wear something else. Or the first time I tried to wear heels only to get scared after a few steps outside and hurry back inside to change. Only facial feminisation surgery did it for me and now I know I pass.
If it’s specifically your jawline that troubles you, have you considered starting by wearing a mask? They’re not as common as COVID days, but it’s normalized enough. It could be a good way to test the waters and build up more confidence.
I’m not the person you asked, and I can’t personally relate. Apologies if what I said is unwelcomed.
The first time I allowed myself to wear a dress when I first saw myself in the mirror as a woman I immediately understood how it feels to identify with your body. Before I would always say I am not a body I only inhabit it. But as soon as I could see myself as a woman something clicked in my brain and for the first time I felt like I was that body. Before that I didn’t even know that was something one could feel. So at least for me gender is very real.
I still haven’t worn skirts often sadly - I feel the ‘parts’ are in the way. And I don’t know how to tuck them effectively - I have shapewear, but that’s it. Tucking it into the body I cannot do.
Plus I feel like I don’t dare yet to go full skirty outside yet. I’m taking E and pass for many, but for myself I feel like I don’t yet – due to my jawline. I don’t know if you’ve done so yet, but how do you overcome that fear? How do people react?
Unfortunately I can’t help you there. I still remember wanting to dress super cutely feminine only to look into a mirror and find myself too masculine to pull it off and sadly changing to wear something else. Or the first time I tried to wear heels only to get scared after a few steps outside and hurry back inside to change. Only facial feminisation surgery did it for me and now I know I pass.
If it’s specifically your jawline that troubles you, have you considered starting by wearing a mask? They’re not as common as COVID days, but it’s normalized enough. It could be a good way to test the waters and build up more confidence.
I’m not the person you asked, and I can’t personally relate. Apologies if what I said is unwelcomed.