If I could get them to realize one thing, it would be that feminism isn’t about women participating in patriarchal structures of oppression as oppressors; it’s about abolishing patriarchal structures of oppression.
If I got a bonus thing, it would be getting them to realize that patriarchy also harms men, that toxic masculinity harms men (and can be perpetuated by women), and that only a relatively small percentage of men can be categorized as “oppressors.”
An oligarch is an oligarch, whether man or woman. And bullying a vulnerable man because he’s an easier target than an actual oppressor is not “smashing the patriarchy.”


Is it? Or are you just in the habit of labeling anything that conflicts with your assumptions as being disingenuous?