The post isn’t positive or helpful. It reinforces negativity, feeds anger and increases overall stress. The dark side doesn’t have cookies, it feeds on suffering, both of oneself and to others.
I don’t see why a momentary boost with long term unwelcome side effects is preferable to a steadier, but more durable approach on life.
The post isn’t positive or helpful. It reinforces negativity, feeds anger and increases overall stress.
To someone who hasn’t experienced relevant trauma, it may look that way. To those of us who have been through it, just knowing you’re not alone can go a long way. The fact that people are talking about the issues from this post goes to show that what we’ve been through isn’t healthy - and that’s a message some people need to hear before they can overcome said-issues.
If you don’t need reminders that your awful experiences are valid, and that it’s okay to break free from the psychological cages you were put in as a child, consider yourself lucky.
Note that it’s all part of a journey. Dwelling on the past long-term can be harmful, but putting in some deep thought to where you are and how you got there can be crucial for healing from childhood trauma. Commiserating with a post like this might seem depressing to you, but for many of us it is simply an early step toward that eventual goal.
Alright, it’s a difference of perspectives. We walk spread around unevenly on a road unknown.
I won’t delete the comment though, if that’s something you might be asking. But if you think it’s unhelpful, feel free to ask a mod to do it instead .I won’t mind or make a circus out of it.
Oh, no, I wouldn’t ask you to delete anything. I just know that forms of catharsis can look strange to those who don’t experience the same feeling.
Like when someone finds that screaming out to heavy metal songs takes their stress away, while another person hears it and thinks, “How could they listen to something that makes them angry?” The trick is, the music doesn’t “make them angry” at all. Rather, it provides a release to emotional tension that would otherwise still linger around inside a person, leading them to feel calmer in the end.
Posts like this provide a similar role, and that’s all I meant to convey.
It is helpful. Being aware of these behaviours and how they could potentially map onto you is immensely valuable. You can’t fix a problem if you’re not aware of it
Sometimes you have to go through the dark to get to the light
And how is my comment not going through the dark to get to the light?
I see a dark post and I’m going through it to show a bit of light on things.
Just because some people disagree with what the light shows doesn’t mean they should crawl back into the dark and hiss at what they see.
“I’m gonna take this vent post about childhood trauma, and go out of my way to invalidate and be dismissive of every point individually. That will surely be helpful for others with similar trauma engaging with this post.”
– You
The post isn’t positive or helpful. It reinforces negativity, feeds anger and increases overall stress. The dark side doesn’t have cookies, it feeds on suffering, both of oneself and to others.
I don’t see why a momentary boost with long term unwelcome side effects is preferable to a steadier, but more durable approach on life.
You do you, but I still think it’s bad for you.
To someone who hasn’t experienced relevant trauma, it may look that way. To those of us who have been through it, just knowing you’re not alone can go a long way. The fact that people are talking about the issues from this post goes to show that what we’ve been through isn’t healthy - and that’s a message some people need to hear before they can overcome said-issues.
If you don’t need reminders that your awful experiences are valid, and that it’s okay to break free from the psychological cages you were put in as a child, consider yourself lucky.
Note that it’s all part of a journey. Dwelling on the past long-term can be harmful, but putting in some deep thought to where you are and how you got there can be crucial for healing from childhood trauma. Commiserating with a post like this might seem depressing to you, but for many of us it is simply an early step toward that eventual goal.
Alright, it’s a difference of perspectives. We walk spread around unevenly on a road unknown.
I won’t delete the comment though, if that’s something you might be asking. But if you think it’s unhelpful, feel free to ask a mod to do it instead .I won’t mind or make a circus out of it.
Oh, no, I wouldn’t ask you to delete anything. I just know that forms of catharsis can look strange to those who don’t experience the same feeling.
Like when someone finds that screaming out to heavy metal songs takes their stress away, while another person hears it and thinks, “How could they listen to something that makes them angry?” The trick is, the music doesn’t “make them angry” at all. Rather, it provides a release to emotional tension that would otherwise still linger around inside a person, leading them to feel calmer in the end.
Posts like this provide a similar role, and that’s all I meant to convey.
Looking around, guess it’s easy to misinterpret words and meanings then.
It is helpful. Being aware of these behaviours and how they could potentially map onto you is immensely valuable. You can’t fix a problem if you’re not aware of it
Sometimes you have to go through the dark to get to the light
And how is my comment not going through the dark to get to the light? I see a dark post and I’m going through it to show a bit of light on things. Just because some people disagree with what the light shows doesn’t mean they should crawl back into the dark and hiss at what they see.